Why I decided to Build a Brand, The Bush Brand

As many of you may know, I went on a emotional roller coaster while pregnant with the twins, even though I tried my best not to show it.

As children,we grow up dreaming of having a husband or a lover you will love to the end of time, having kids with that person, having a home and living a content life. Well that was my childhood dream. Even after having been engaged twice and having kids by my two former fiances I still looked for my dreams to come true.

Never in my life would I have imagined three things, 1). That I would be a single mother, 2). Have twins and 3). Have a man abandon not only me, but straight up lie and have nothing to do with the beautiful twin babies we produced.

It may bother me so much because he did it all for another female. So that she would believe he didn’t have anymore kids and that I am a bum and a delusional female he used to mess with, that only says he is the father because he has money. However, his money isn’t money that is in a bank account, or invested into a home or a car its just flashy street money that apparently I’m so delusional over.

Everyday is a struggle, I love all my kids but my other two kids know their father and have some sort of relationship. However, everyday is a struggle because I look at my beautiful babies and can’t understand how a man that people in my community feel is such a great person could turn his back on his offspring, how is mom, sister, brothers, nephew etc., know about the situation and don’t reach out. Two of them are my Facebook friends and they saw when my baby was going through her hurt surgery and collapsed lung and couldn’t even comment or like a picture. 20170725_191735

Yes, I’m a strong woman, I been through a lot but this is the most hurtful thing I been through. I have even been in the Passaic County Jail,  in Paterson, NJ where I was even in shackles, where I had to got naked and open my butt cheeks and coughing, sharing a nasty cell with females and being treated like a freaking child by CO’s. I would take that over the hurt I feel now.

With these twins not only did the father abandon me, but friends, well people I thought were my friends or people I thought had a heart.  I have family, cousins that live near me, that don’t even come by a visit or call to see if I need a break or even support the Bush Brand Business I came up with in tribute to my twins.

Despite the situation, I took it as a lesson along with the hurt I have my 5th baby that keeps me busy and like mentioned earlier it is the Bush Brand. I have started it because I want to pass it down to the twins. Let them know their father may not love them but the world will.OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

The twins were born hyper pigmentation and eczema and I decided I would make The Bush Brand Body Butters. Not only do I have body butters, but I’m working on bath balms, and a few other products. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

Also, when I was pregnant, I started writing stories about the twins. I took two of the stories and wrote my first kids book. The 1st two stories deal with Bullying and not having a Dad in the story Mommadad. Those subjects are big topic in today’s society.

Bullying has come a major topic nowadays, especially with social media, causing children to commit suicide.  I wanted to make a story explaining it to kids in a easy way and let them learn that isn’t nice and that’s not the way to go about dealing with situations.

Mommadad, was written because I know one day they twins will want to know why they don’t have a dad. I will have to explain it to them. There are many many kid who were abandoned my a father and or a mother. Those things effect kids in many ways, but I want my kids to be successful, confident and love themselves despite they are missing half of their family. book 2_pg 4 (1)

My book Mia & Mya Twin Adventures  is starting to get more sales, Bush Brand Body Butter sales are starting to pick up. The crazy part none of the people I helped in the past as far supporting their business or ideas have shared, liked or supported The Bush Brand in anyway. I even had to unfriend people because it hurt that they supported other and couldn’t even click a like button on my post. Their are people that I know that are advocates for moms and the whole mom life movement with discussions and podcast, who you would think would be supporters of what I do. But No. I feel like people don’t like to see the underdog reach for the top.

I even did a group text to let people, people that were either family or influential people in the community of to know of my book release. I know people hate group chats but I was to lazy to do individually. Anyway, one person texted back “Please remove me from chat.” Not, a congratulations or anything but just remove me from chat, while others requested the same and at least congratulated me in some sort of way. That was hurtful especially since the person is a mom life advocate. All I can do is laugh at it now, laugh on how people want but don’t want to give. People don’t want to see others on top and won’t do anything they feel is a threat to them and what they are trying to do.

Having my twins and building a Brand has been a wide eye opener. I don’t look at anyone the same, I don’t trust the same but I work harder, grind harder, making success for my family the main goal because gaining faith in the most high above. I was always trying to help people and support people but now that it is my time to shine I see where people stand. You know what? I learned I stand alone and it’s me alone who will have to bust my butt to get the success I need and want and that’s exactly what I will do.

This is my story behind building the Bush Brand.

 

MIA & MYA Twin Adventures

 

While 6 months pregnant I started Mia & Mya Twin Adventures. The stories were based on different topics I would face as a mom, single mom or as they will face growing up with one another as well with their other siblings.

I wanted stories that related to kids all over. Bullying and growing up without a parent who knowingly walked away are touchy subject but they are both subject we as parent and kids have to deal with.

I decided to make the 1st book a two story book. The first book discusses Bullying and a simple manner for little kids. The second story deals with the twins facing the fact they don’t know their father and how I as a single mom will explain to them in a simple manner without bashing how they are still special and loved.

I found a great illustrator on IG @sketchesbybrookes aka Chris Morris. Chris is very talented and helped me bring my characters to life.

I have other stories coming along such as sharing, the importance of brushing your teeth and currently working on a story based on having scars from surgery.

Mia & Mya Twin Adventures is available on Amazon kindle as of now, hopefully in the next week it will be available on paperback.

Below is the link to purchase to book via Amazon Kindle.

 

Turning A Single Mother Struggles into Gratitude.

You would think having being a single mom of four, which includes 6 month old twins that people would come by or call to check on you. “Hey, do you need help doing laundry, grocery shopping or need a nap?” Maybe for some, but not for me, I’m lucky if one person called me once in 10 days who isn’t my mother.

I have a right to be bitter I feel, but I choose not to. I have a right to go back to smoking a Newport or taking a few pulls of a blunt while tears are rolling down my cheek. Maybe drink a whole bottle of wine or Ciroc while I reminisce until I get drunk and pass out and have my 15 year old deal with my 4 years old and 6 month old twins.

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Walking back to get groceries I had to leave behind.

Just last night, New Years Eve, while I watched everyone on social media dress up or go out or to a loved ones home to celebrate, I was out grocery shopping, struggling with 10 heavy bags walking to the bus stop, and walking home from the bus stop. I got to the point where I just left a few bags behind while I walked half a block with the other bags, just to put those down and go back and get the backs I left behind. I walked those bags a few feet to put them down and went back for the other bags. I did that continually until I got to my apartment, which was only a 5 min walk from the bus stop but it became a 20 min hustle for me.

Instead making my struggle a sad story, I wanted to make into a story of goodness. There is no reason to be bitter. Some people don’t know what is feels like to have nobody so you can’t expect people to be there for you. Therefore, making my struggles and turning them into gratitude is just another piece of humble pie for me.

I got up today, New Years day and deiced to make homemade baby apple sauce and sweet potatoes for the twins . As I was doing so, I was wondering how many other single moms have nobody, nobody to call, nobody who visits and become sad and want to give up.


So, I decided since I know a lot of moms may not have the time or energy I am offering a weeks supple of free all natural homemade baby food (Apple Sauce and/ or Sweet potato) to 4 single parent families for the month of January. As the pictures show, you can see my food making process.

If you know of any families that want or need free all natural baby food email or inbox me @Thebushwins on IG for more information.

Bush Body Butter Balm

Sometimes it kinda of funny to see a 4 month old scratching. It’s like how do they know how to do that already.

Imagine seeing and feeling hard, rough scaly spots on both your twins and they both are whining and scratching. Well after seeing them scratch and scratch I came up with the idea to do something about it.

They doctor told me to invest in some products, but once I put those products on it was like the skin felt like crack and rough within a few hours.
So I decided to look up some all natural ingredients which includes raw butters and vitamin E that would help there skin and something I could use on their hair as well. Hey, let me kill 2 birds with one stone lol.

Not only did I make my own personal batch but I decided to get some reviews, so I sent 7 small jars to various strangers I met in a FB group that lived across the US so I could get feedback.
After their review, which were all good but some adjustments were needed.
So as I adjusted ingredients, I too was monitoring the progress on the twins skin.

Since the twins are behind the making of the Body Butter and we are looking into branding the babies we are now The Bush Brand and under that umbrella we now have the BUSH BRAND BODY BUTTER BALM 

After two weeks of applying BBBB 2-3 times a day their skin has improved and smoothed out.
My product, comes off oily but their skin eats right up which I love about it.
Since they are older then 3 months I added Lavender essential oils (Oils are not recommended for babies under 3 months).

After two weeks of using Bush Body Butter Balm, the skin is much smoother.

Our shop is on Etsy at https://www.etsy.com/shop/BushBrandBodyButters and you please go like us on Facebook The Bush Brand – Body Butter & Lotions and follow us on IG @Thebushtwins

Working Mom to Stay at Home Mom

I returned to work in NYC while I live in NJ. I was reluctant because I didn’t want to be far from the twins, but I needed the money.

Being that I was one of the oldest and older employees in my department only after being there a year ( that in itself says a lot), I figured I would be able to get more of the schedule that I needed.  However, the 5 new people that came while I was on maternity leave got more convenient schedules, especially on the weekends. My manager was hired a month before I was due to leave, so she had seemed cool and easy to work with. A lot changed while I was gone.

Before I left, a week before giving birth to the twins I was working 100 + hours every 2 weeks, due to being short staffed. Everyone had to work weekends and time with the two children I already had was limited. Now that I returned, the new people have a weekend off, everyone had 1 night to close during the week and we all alternated a weekend night. I thought that was perfect. However, I wasn’t given a weekend off but instead I had to close on Sunday nights. I thought if I switched with my co-worker and close on his weekday I would get to either be off or leave earlier on the weekend, especially since I was the only person in my department with kids. I thought wrong. My manager said since I switched with him before consulting her I had to close both nights.

I was no longer making 80 hours because there were now two many people in my department, and now that I had twins I had to leave my house earlier to drop them off in the next town. I was averaging 4 1/2 hours a day with my kids 5 days out of the week. Since I was off Thursday and Friday I still wasn’t getting ample time with my teenager since she was in school. I used all my days, so I was getting written up because I called out sick. I was getting to work 20 min late because trying to catch a UBER or cab every morning to the sitter then being stuck in traffic on the bus to NY was a hassle. One day I just paid the cab $100 to take me to the sitter and then to work so I wouldn’t be late.

Being a single mom with 4 kids, in my mid 30’s then having to go to work and have someone tell you when you can go to lunch, tell them when you have to use the restroom, can’t whisper (Yes, we couldn’t whisper if my manager was in the office which was everyday), being watched and micro manged, then being told I couldn’t have my cell out and visible when I obviously I have children and I needed my phone to be out just in case I got a phone call. It got to a point where I couldn’t, I couldn’t be in a position where I was treated like a child and had to sneak and look at my phone or text the sitter.

I got up one morning and called in and said I’m not coming in, I quit. I didn’t how I was going to do it and I didn’t care because I was going to make something out of nothing. My kids come first and I knew I would do anything to make sure they have. I may not have all the money I had before, but I have a piece of mind and quality time with my kids and I make sure they still don’t want for nothing.

 

My Top 10 Stupid remarks I get As A Twin Mom

My twin girls are now 5 months and we don’t get out much. I have gotten dumb questions, but after going away with them the questions got more annoying or stupid. I am usually the type who gets annoyed easily but having twins is making me just a little and I mean a little tolerate of ignorant people and the redundant questions. Here are my top 10 stupid questions or remarks I get since I became a twin mom.

10. When out with my twins, people say  “How do you do it?” When I get asked that I really want to say is, “What, I’m not suppose to do anything just because I have twins?” But instead I just grin and nod my head.

9. “Can I hold one of your babies?” HELL NO,  is what I say in my head. I just say, “No, I don’t let people hold my babies.”

While on vacation, random strangers just walked up to me or my dad and asked if they could hold my babies. Like WTH? However, I did let  another twin mom I was talking with hold one of my twins .

8. Are they yours? No, they’re the Boogie Mans!!!

I’m not one to just carry around anyone’s baby and definitely not anyone’s two babies.

YES, they are mine (I say with a fake smile as I roll my eyes)

The other day, a lady said she thought my twins were my 15 yr old daughter babies and I was the grandma. My 15 year old was wearing a bikini with a flat stomach, holding one baby while the other was in the stroller next to me. I don’t know if she was being funny because teen pregnancy is high in urban communities, because I know good and damn well I don’t look like nobody’s grandma or look like I have a 15 year old. Smh

7. After, I tell people they are identical, I get asked, does that run in your family? Maybe a lot of people aren’t educated on twins, but IDENTICAL TWINS ARE NOT HEREDITY, like my doctor says it’s the Luck of the Draw, I won the baby lottery by having identical twins. I think I have to explain this to everyone that stops me.

6. Are they natural? Yes, I had sex and BOOM instead of one I got two. Yes, I actually say that lol.

I really want to say, Does, it look like I would pay for IVF or pay a surrogate? Just to hear what else silly people will say.

5. Better you than me. What does that mean?

It takes a extra special strong woman to have, handle and take care of multiples especially if your a single mom.

Does it mean, better me because I’m strong and your weak? Does it mean, I’m lucky to be blessed with multiples and you weren’t because you wouldn’t appreciate that blessing?

Whatever it means, I know i’m thankful it was me and not you!

4. You talk about twins a lot, you must be obsessed with twins?

Now, when I was pregnant I had someone say this to me. I was pregnant with twins and now have twins so your definitely going to hear me talk about twins. What, are you mad because you can’t relate. Whats the problem?

That’s like is a person with no kids who is around friends who discuss their kids, do they say, you must be obsessed with kids? No, they listen or don’t engage in conversation since they can’t relate.

3. Did you get your tubes tied? This a very popular question. Why, do people care? Last I checked I take care of my kids and this is my body. If I want more kids it will be my responsibility. I support my kids by myself, I don’t get help, barely have people who help me. Therefore, if I make another that’s my prerogative. What does my tubes being tied or not have to be of any concern to anyone, i’m not on welfare so your tax money isn’t benefiting me so what I do with my uterus and Fallopian tubes don’t benefit you. 

2. “Are they twins? or Can I see?” (No, its a dog and a cat and my kids aren’t on display or spectacle).

I am pushing two babies in a stroller, what do people think? Again, I want to say a smart remark like: No, they are just two infants i’m pushing around for the fun of it?

I don’t know why people ask that question.

I would rather people walk up to me and say “Oh, are they identical or fraternal?” Again, I just say yes with a smile without showing “how I hate this question” thru my facial expression.

Now the # 1 most annoying Question is:

Are they Boy/ Girl? 

Now, I know we live in a world of anything goes and maybe one may think “she was rushing and threw a pink blanket on both babies.” However, if you see pink sneaker on both babies or pink anything on both babies that you are looking right at as ask me if they are Boy/ Girl, I really want to say are you that dumb, last I checked baby girls wear pink not boys. Instead I say, they are IDENTICAL GIRLS as I proceed to say under my breathe how much of an idiot you are. 

 

I know I will probably have more annoying phrase or questions as they get older but as of now these are my TOP 10. 

 

 

 

 

TRAVELING WITH TWINS

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I knew it wouldn’t be an easy task but as a single mom, but I wanted to take a venture with my kids even if that meant taking my 5 month old twins away as well.
I have my fifteen year old daughter and my three year old son, they don’t get out often and wanted to treat them to a nice resort in Orlando, Florida.
Our destination: Orange Lake Resort in Kissimmee, Florida.
As a single mom I looked forward to taking my 4 kids on a luxury vacation.
Our departure flight was with Spirit airlines. I must say I will never fly Spirit Again.
I had packed one suitcase with everyone things for a 5 night 4 day vacation. Of course with baby twins, you have to take extra onesies and pampers and a bunch of bids. Apparently, with Spirit Airlines they charge about $50.00 for checking in 1 bag and since my bag was 50.9 lbs. that was another charge of $55.00. So I spent $100 of the kid’s activity money checking our suitcase with Spirit Airlines.
After checking- In we were on our way to the biggest hump the TS mother (bleep) A, (In my daughter’s voice, my daughter has watched the movie  GET OUT to much, lol) PLANE

Once we got to security screening they gave my fifteen year old a pass so that she didn’t have to take off her coat and sneakers. Since my son is three he is allowed to go straight thru as well, but he is at the age where he likes to copy what I say and do, so he removed his jacket, hat, scarf and sneakers all while I’m trying to remove my sneakers, jacket and scarf. I was allowed to carry on my breast pump and bottles but all electronics had to be in its own tray. I had 2 cell phones, my camera and each car seat has to go on the security belt as well so I had to the remove babies as well.
I was kind of pissed since I had to put their blankets in a tray, they put their blankets in their mouth and I know the trays aren’t sanitized after each use. However, I have to follow regulations. By the time we finished taking off and unloading bags, we had 8 trays.
After going security screening we had an hour and a half before our flight departed which was at 6:15pm. After 6 pm they announced our flight was delayed until 7 pm. Thankfully the twins were well behaved, ate and slept. However, the three year old was a different story.
After 45 min, my son thought the sitting area at the gate was a play area. He ran all around, causing my daughter to chase him. He ended up running into a departure gate causing the airline attendant to chase after him with her baton to get him out or otherwise he would of ran right onto to the flight to Fort Lauradale and I would have had my own version of the movie HOME ALONE.
After getting my son to sit down, well sit down screaming and escaping from the stroller a stranger offered him candy causing him to remain half way seated until the plane was boarding,. The only thing I did appreciate about Spirit Airlines was that I was able to board first since I had a stroller.
Once on the plane all the kids slept which was a great thing. I was just unware that since I was sitting a 3 seat row the babies weren’t allowed to sit next to each other.

If more than one infant is seated in a parent’s lap and the oxygen masks were to be used one of the row occupants will have no oxygen mask to use.
Usually the reservation system/agents will avoid such a situation but it could happen that a family with two infants will be given boarding passes in one row, the cabin crew then will move one of the parents along with one of the infants to the other side of the row or to another row.”

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My fifteen year old had to sit across from me and we just switched babies when one was hungry. however, the fact that I breast feed and need water or fluids, Spirit airlines charges for everything, no complimentary nothing expect for ice which I got so I could at least have some sort of water in my system and had to pay $5 for a drink for my son and daughter. Besides, the constant cost on Spirit and a delayed flight we finally got to our destination. Ohhh and I forgot to me mention no TV’s on the flight.
The funny part was my dad was picking us up in his 2 door Cadillac coupe. So, he took the kids, two car seats in the back, my son sat on the drink holder island in the middle of the back seat and my fifteen year old in the front. I sat at the airport with luggage and stroller until his wife was able to come pick me up an hour later.

On the departure trip I learned from the arriving flight the dos and don’ts. Thankfully, we took JetBlue Airlines back home. My daughter didn’t get a pass so she had to remove her belongings and we didn’t get to go first because we had a stroller. Baggage check in with the same suitcase I paid $105 to check in with Spirit Airlines. I paid $25 with JetBlue and we got complimentary drinks and chips as well as TV and the flight was on time.
Being a single mom with 4 kids, we did get a lot of attention and comments which I will blog about in my next blog. I’m glad I was able to take my kids away for fun because a lot of families with both parents aren’t fortunate don’t to getaway, so I’m very grateful.